In this powerful coaching session, Christine supports Nina, a high-achieving woman who has learned to rely on herself since childhood—and now wonders why love feels so hard to receive. Despite years of healing and success, she finds herself attracting men who are kind but lack direction, and she struggles to understand whether her independence is strength or self-protection.

Christine helps Nina uncover the difference between healthy masculine energy and overfunctioning rooted in trauma. Together, they explore how early loss and betrayal created hypervigilance, and how surrendering to trust—especially through a deeper spiritual relationship—can open the door to healthy, reciprocal love.

If you've ever been told you're "too strong," or you find it easier to do everything yourself than to receive support, this episode will help you reframe that pattern with compassion and start allowing love in.

Consider / Ask Yourself:

Do you relate to overfunctioning or feeling like the one everyone relies on?
Is receiving help or love uncomfortable for you?
Do you believe you need to have everything handled to feel safe?
Have you confused control with confidence or independence with strength?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

Overfunctioning is often a trauma response, not healthy masculine energy.
When we've been hurt by men, we often project that hurt onto "the masculine" as a whole.
Safety must come before surrender—your nervous system needs evidence that love can be safe.
Healing happens in stages; each relationship can serve as a stepping stone toward healthy partnership.
True surrender isn't weakness—it's a return to trust, faith, and divine alignment.

How to Deepen the Work:

Reflect on early memories that taught you to "handle it all" and what beliefs they created.
Practice receiving in small, everyday ways (compliments, help, rest).
Replace "I need to fix it" with "I'm open to support."
Pray or journal: "God, help me align with my most loving and healthy match."
Remember that trust—both spiritual and relational—is a muscle built over time.

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Upcoming Program:
Christine's Emerge Program is now open! This 3-month embodiment experience is for anyone who has done the inner work but still feels stuck. Learn to integrate awareness into embodied confidence and flow.

Join at christinehassler.com/emerge2025.

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