What if your biggest obstacle to finding the right partner isn't a lack of options—but a lack of trust in your own decisions?
In this coaching session, Christine works with Victoria, a 34-year-old woman who deeply desires marriage and motherhood but feels increasing pressure to find the right partner before time runs out.
Victoria has dated men who were interested in her, only to realize months later that the connection wasn't what she wanted. She often commits mentally too quickly, analyzes potential partners, and seeks reassurance from friends and family about whether she's making the right choice.
As Christine explores Victoria's childhood, a deeper pattern emerges: making mistakes never felt safe. Victoria learned to rely on other people's approval to determine whether her choices were right, gradually disconnecting from her own intuition and discernment.
Christine helps Victoria recognize the difference between being intentional about finding love and putting so much pressure on herself that dating becomes an exercise in avoiding mistakes.
Rather than trying harder to find the perfect partner, Victoria is encouraged to slow down, stop outsourcing her decisions, and rebuild trust in her own judgment—one small choice at a time.
If you've ever questioned your relationship decisions, worried about choosing the wrong person, or felt pressure to reach certain life milestones, this episode offers a powerful reminder: You don't build self-trust by always getting things right. You build it by trusting yourself to navigate whatever happens.
Are you approaching dating with intention or with pressure and urgency?
Do you worry so much about choosing the wrong partner that you struggle to recognize genuine connection?
Did making mistakes in childhood lead to shame, criticism, or disapproval?
Do you rely on friends, family, or outside opinions to validate your relationship decisions?
Are you more focused on finding what's wrong with someone than noticing how you genuinely feel around them?
What would change if you trusted yourself to make decisions without needing reassurance?
Wanting marriage, partnership, or children is a beautiful intention, but pressure can interfere with the process of finding love.
Intentionality and urgency are not the same thing.
Childhood experiences of criticism or shame can create a lifelong fear of making mistakes.
When we learn to rely on external validation, we can lose touch with our own discernment.
Overanalyzing potential partners may be a protective strategy against choosing incorrectly.
Strong sexual chemistry doesn't necessarily mean someone is an emotionally aligned partner.
Slowing down allows relationships to unfold before we mentally commit to a future with someone.
Self-trust develops through making decisions, learning from mistakes, and trusting ourselves to handle the outcome.
The goal isn't to eliminate mistakes. It's to stop believing that making one means something is wrong with us.
Notice where you're putting unnecessary pressure on yourself to reach a particular milestone.
When dating someone new, slow down and allow the connection to develop before deciding they're your person.
Practice making small everyday decisions without consulting friends, family, or outside sources.
Before asking someone else's opinion, check in with your own feelings and intuition.
Give yourself permission to make mistakes without interpreting them as failures.
Notice when you're overthinking a decision because you're afraid of getting it wrong.
Reflect on past relationships as opportunities to develop discernment rather than evidence that you've made poor choices.
One of the biggest breakthroughs in this conversation comes when Victoria recognizes how often she looks outside herself for reassurance.
Whether she's dating someone new, evaluating a relationship, or making everyday decisions, she frequently seeks confirmation that she's making the right choice.
But Christine reminds her that self-trust cannot develop when we're consistently outsourcing our decisions.
The invitation is to begin small.
Choose what to wear, what to order, or how to respond to someone without asking multiple people for their opinions.
Allow yourself to make a decision, experience the outcome, and learn from it.
The goal isn't to become someone who never makes mistakes. It's to become someone who trusts herself enough to know she'll be okay even when she does.
Christine discusses the 2026–2027 Be the Queen program, which she teaches with her husband for women who want to call in or call forward a healthy, conscious, soul-match relationship.
The program focuses on self-trust, discernment, releasing protective relationship patterns, and developing a more empowered approach to dating and partnership.
Christine shares that enrollment is still open, with live calls continuing through February. Payment plans and a money-back guarantee are also mentioned.
Learn more and apply for Be the Queen
For questions about the program, Christine mentions contacting Jill at Jill@ChristineHassler.com.
Christine references Love Magnet, where she teaches about attraction, relationship patterns, and how chemistry can sometimes indicate an issue-based relationship rather than genuine compatibility.
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