What to do when your partner shuts down. Are you trying to have a relationship with a partner who avoids, defends or worse... won't talk at all? Few things are as frustrating, or as hurtful. It's hard NOT to get upset and angry when you're feeling rejected, unloved, or uncared for. The problem is that many people who clam up as a defensive strategy when thin ... Show More
Oct 12
Is Your Partner’s Job Replacing You? The Hidden Cost of a Career That Comes First | Love | E564
They love you. So why does it feel like their job gets the best of them, and you get whatever is left? Maybe you're always waiting for them to come home. Maybe you've stopped asking for more because they're so busy. Or maybe you're the one saying, “I'm sorry, but I have to work.” ... Show More
55m 30s
Sep 2025
#65: How to have difficult conversation with a partner that easily shuts down or gets defensive?
Do you find yourself dreading hard conversations with your partner because they either shut down, get defensive, or turn it back on you? You’re definitely not alone!In this episode, I’ll break down why some partners withdraw, stonewall, or get reactive in conflict - and how it’s ... Show More
55m 28s
Mar 2021
21 - Don't Drop It Like It's Hot - Communicating with Your Partner about Frustrations
In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss the importance of addressing concerns with your partner early on. Often couples avoid addressing issues for various reasons. When they don’t communicate their frustrations or needs, negative feelings can build, and they can begin to express n ... Show More
26m 26s
Aug 2025
Dealing With An Avoidant's Silent Treatment - What To Do
I dive deep into the silent treatment often used by avoidant partners—and what it really means. I share why this behavior isn't always intentional, how it impacts you emotionally, and what practical steps you can take to respond in a grounded, respectful way. As someone who used ... Show More
19m 53s
Sep 2023
116. Why is my partner defensive and how to change it
Have you tried to raise an issue to your partner and rather than hear you, they whine, make excuses, or worse – they turn the issue on you? Maybe you are the person who responds in these ways, and you don’t know why you do this. In this podcast I will cover the common reasons peo ... Show More
18m 22s