Yesterday I sat down at the dinner table with my husband, and we ate in silence. We were both tired, it had been a long day, and I thought “what if this is what our relationship was like?”. I would probably feel lonely, disconnected, and bored.
I can imagine over a series of silent dinner eating, I might feel like we are drifting apart. Or I might even get mad on the inside that he wasn’t talking to me (even though I could have initiated the dialogue).
I have clients tell me that at first the silence was like an ache in their chest, but over time the ache hardened into awall. They stopped caring that they weren’t connected, instead they built a wall between them and their partner and shut down their emotional connection.
If you have had many moments in silence, are feeling disconnected, and want to rekindle the connection between you and your partner, here are some practical tools to help you do that.
1. Use conversation starters to help you have great connections.
2. Think/talk about what is going right.
We have gone over two tools to help improve your emotional connection. Look, you can’t start and keep a fire going without fuel and a spark. In your relationship, you need a spark of willingness to take action, and the fuel is both partners engaging repeatedly in actions/beliefs that will fuel the relationship.
Connection isn’t a one-and-done process. It needs to be consistently worked on over the course of the relationship to keep the connection alive.
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