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Apr 2024
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Who's to Blame? Determining Your Part in...

Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
About this episode

Who's to blame for your frustrating problems and patterns in your relationship?

It's obviously your partner, right... they're the problem. No… blaming them doesn't get you anywhere, in fact it makes things worse and more difficult to get out of. 

If there's one thing that is inarguable in social psychology it's that relationships are bi-directional.Meaning, your attitude, actions, and choices affect your partner's attitude, actions, and choices, and vice versa.

Unfortunately many couples stay stuck in frustrating cycles or without a solution because they aren't in a problem-solving state. If you truly operate as a team and dive a little deeper into WHY you keep encountering this frustrating pattern, you can overcome it together.

 

In this episode you'll hear a deep-dive into:

  • The 5 root causes of most marriage problems/issues

  • 4 self-reflective questions to ask yourself to identify your partner in the situation 

  • Understanding more about a psychology approach to effective problem solving

 

Use this link to join the mentioned Rebuilding Us 30-Day Couples Challenge (level 2). 

Or for other resources, link on our general website link. 

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