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Dec 2019
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110. Dating, Perfectionism & Anxious Att...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
About this episode

This week, I’m taking a topic I’ve discussed on the podcast before a step further. Attachment theory is something you might believe in, or you might not, but I think it’s useful to discuss it to see how it’s affecting your relationships, especially in terms of your dating life. 

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