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Sep 2023
12m 52s

#109: Anxious Attachment & Open Relation...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts around anxious attachment & open relationships. While not being my personal experience, this is an area I receive a lot of requests and questions around, as various non-monogamous relationship structures grow in popularity. 

We'll cover:

  • common struggles of anxious attachment and how they might show up in an open relationship structure
  • the importance of having a strong relationship to self when exploring open relationships
  • communication, boundaries and self-advocacy
  • why you should never agree to open a relationship just to hold onto someone

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