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Nov 2017
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4. People Pleasing

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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This week, we're talking about how our society and upbringing has affected our subconscious (and conscious) thinking to constantly engage in people pleasing. Join us as I explain why we often choose to prioritize others’ wants and needs over our own and the detrimental effects this has on our personal and professional lives.

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