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Jul 2024
27m 19s

#213: Sick of People-Pleasing? Here’s Ho...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

People-pleasing is engrained into so many of us. In attempts to be nice, we neglect our own needs, trading authenticity for approval.

You will learn how to...

  • be honest with other people
  • how people-pleasing relates to self-trust
  • tips for aligning with your authentic self before making decisions

Remember: don’t trade short-term approval for long-term authenticity.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Getting Real by Susan Campbell: https://amzn.to/4cqguuo
Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton, PhD: https://amzn.to/3W4EDRk

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