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Sep 30
1h 16m

My First Heartbreak, Addiction, and Arre...

Shane Kohler
About this episode
This is part two of my life story — and it's the chapter I've never shared this openly before. In this episode I take you through leaving my mother's home to move in with my father, whose addiction shaped everything about the environment I grew up in. I share my introduction to drugs at thirteen, how I started selling to support my habit, my first real relat ... Show More
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