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Jun 2024
29m 10s

“when will it be my turn to find love?” ...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

Are you feeling punished by the dating gods? Wondering if you’re supposed to be alone forever? In this episode, I dive deep into a viral TikTok where a creator expresses her exhaustion with dating and questions her fate in finding love. Join me as we unpack why these feelings are more normal than you might think and how shifting your perspective from fixing to flourishing can completely transform your love life. This premium episode takes a closer look at the widespread discussion and often harsh judgments sparked by the video. We explore how these attitudes reflect our collective approach to love and dating, potentially leading us to deeply unfulfilling searches and attracting exactly the kind of partners we might want to avoid. We're breaking down the big questions and the quiet thoughts many of us whisper after another disappointing date or when we see our friends pairing off. I'm here to unpack all of it — with heart, humor, and maybe a little bit of tough love. Let’s get real about the highs and lows of modern dating, shake off the 'supposed to's, and explore what it means to find lasting (and realistic) love in today's world.


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