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Jun 26
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I don't want to hurt the person who hurt...

Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert
About this episode

Your heart is big. And your kindness and compassion, though amazing qualities, can also keep you in situations that are unhealthy for you. When you're afraid you're going to hurt someone by leaving them, there's a bigger picture to keep in mind. 

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