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Feb 2023
59m 45s

"am i crazy, or are they gaslighting me?...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional turbulence of high-conflict relationships, focusing on a listener’s experience with being gaslit. When Jade called in to share how she’s been made to feel “too much” or “too sensitive,” it highlighted the destructive power of gaslighting—and how easily mental health stigma can fuel feelings of self-doubt and guilt. Together, we’ll unpack the signs and effects of gaslighting, from the subtle shifts in self-perception to the ways it can derail emotional stability. We’ll also explore how partners who are open about their mental health can sometimes be manipulated into taking blame, and why self-soothing and emotional intelligence are key skills for handling intense relationship dynamics. Whether you’re navigating a high-conflict relationship, dealing with unresolved guilt, or simply seeking clarity, this episode will offer guidance and practical steps for reclaiming your sense of self.


Key topics covered include:


  • Recognizing gaslighting and understanding its impact on your self-trust
  • Identifying if and when your partner might be using gaslighting tactics
  • The damaging role of mental health stigma in relationships
  • Tips for initiating the conversation about couple’s therapy
  • Self-soothing strategies and conflict resolution for high-conflict couples
  • Moving beyond the blame game to build healthier emotional dynamics


Tune in for an honest conversation on gaslighting, emotional resilience, and the road to building stronger, more self-aware relationships.


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