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Jun 25
14m 35s

Endings

Trista Guertin
About this episode

Many of us build our identity around a role—a job, a relationship, parenting, caregiving, or a title we've held for years.

But what happens when that role ends?

In this episode, I share a message from an 81-year-old listener who was unexpectedly forced into retirement after working her entire life. What she is experiencing isn't really a retirement problem. It's an identity transition.

We'll explore why losing a role can feel so disorienting, the lie our culture tells us about aging and usefulness, and how to begin creating meaning in a chapter you didn't choose.

If you've ever wondered who you are after a major life change, this episode is for you.

In This Episode:

  • Why the loss of a role can feel like the loss of yourself
  • The difference between your identity and your job, title, or circumstances
  • The hidden grief that often comes with retirement, divorce, empty nest, and career transitions
  • Why your value doesn't disappear when a chapter ends
  • A powerful question to help you create your next chapter with intention

Key Takeaway

The role ended. Not you.

A chapter may close, but your value, purpose, wisdom, and ability to contribute remain.

The question is no longer, "What do I do now?"

The question is:

"Who do I want to become next?"

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