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Apr 2023
1h 15m

5 Ways to Take Your Power Back When Peop...

Mel Robbins
About this episode

Today, you and I are calling BS on partners, friends, siblings, colleagues, and roommates who ride on your coattails, mooch off your generosity, and love the fact that you do everything. (While they do next to nothing.…)

 

It’s time to take your power back with 5 actionable takeaways to get people in your life to step up and do their part.

 

I’m not messing around. The first person you’ll meet in this episode is tired of being the only one holding her family together.  

 

And during the second coaching session I get even more intense with a woman whose boyfriend hasn’t had a job in three years.

 

Hear me loud and clear: by enabling other people, you are part of the problem. 

 

There are 5 things you need to know that will change this dysfunction now.

 

Clear your schedule for the next hour because you and I have an appointment where you, my friend, will learn how to lay down the law and start putting yourself first.

 

Xo Mel 

 

Can’t ask for what you need? Listen to “How to Speak Up for Yourself.

 

In this episode, you will learn:



 

  • 3:00: Do you have people in your life who rely on you a little too much?
  • 4:30: Maybe you’re being used or maybe it’s this instead.
  • 7:00: Is it time for you to be the parent now?
  • 10:00: This is how to get your entire family on the same page.
  • 14:00: Your siblings will understand your expectations if you do this.
  • 17:15: Do this to make people feel that they’re doing the right thing.
  • 21:30: Have a partner that isn’t pulling their weight? You need to hear this.
  • 35:00: This is how you start a conversation when it’s time to set boundaries.
  • 38:30: In a toxic partnered relationship? This is the truth bomb you need.
  • 40:15: Has it become more important to be loved than to love yourself?
  • 44:45: Let me coach you through this exercise to help you change your future.
  • 48:00: Another truth bomb you need to hear today, no matter what you’re doing.
  • 51:45: Listen to Brooke set a courageous boundary for the first time.
  • 54:00: Keep little ears away, because this is what tough f’n love sounds like.
  • 56:30: Stop letting your patterns make choices for you and step up.
  • 1:00:45: Use this word instead of “ultimatum” when it’s time for that.

 

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