She is exhausted, overwhelmed, and carrying a running list in her head that never stops. And he has no idea it exists. Not because he does not care. Because nobody ever showed him what it actually is or what it is costing her.
Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Dr. Morgan Cutlip, the world's leading expert on the mental load, to break ... Show More
Jun 4
Why Men Stop Trying to Make You Happy | Alison Armstrong & Adam Lane Smith
Most women have been trying to understand men the same way they understand other women. And it has never worked. Not because men are broken, but because nobody ever showed her how they actually work. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Alison Armstrong, one ... Show More
1h 10m
May 21
How to Win at Marriage (The Way You Win at Work) | Patrick Lencioni
Your marriage is a team. Most people are running it like a dysfunctional one and have no idea why nothing is working. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Patrick Lencioni, author of The Five Dysfunctions of a Team and one of the world's leading experts on o ... Show More
1h 12m
Mar 2025
#181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop)
<p>In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it.</p><p>It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (of ... Show More
26m 39s
Apr 2024
A Man's Guide To Ending Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
<p>Talking points: attachment, psychology, mindset, relationships</p><p><br></p><p>Alright team, this is one of the biggest guides yet! There were a TON of requests to cover this one, so I happily obliged. This attachment style is also called "disorganized attachment", and I've w ... Show More
1h 7m
Jul 2025
#196: How & Why We Self-Abandon in Relationships
If you deeply fear abandonment, there’s a good chance you’ve also been abandoning yourself in quiet, subtle, and painful ways.In today’s episode, we’re exploring how fear of abandonment often leads to patterns of self-abandonment — especially for those with anxious attachment. We ... Show More
19m 8s
Jun 2025
#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment
<p>While it’s easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment — overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment — there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, many of the traits we associate w ... Show More
12m 15s
Sep 2025
Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships- Anxious Attachment Trap
I dive into the anxious attachment trap and why it keeps sabotaging relationships. I share the hidden beliefs and behaviors that fuel insecurity, and I break down practical strategies to move toward secure attachment.You’ll learn how to interrupt the cycle, communicate clearly, a ... Show More
22m 57s
Apr 2025
#183: How to Be a Better Partner
<p>When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what <em>isn’t</em> working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down.</p><p>But in this episode, I want to invite a slightly differ ... Show More
22m 19s
Jun 2025
Episode 5 - Why do you get attached so quickly? Psychology answers
In this episode, we explore the mystery of attachment in romantic relationships: Why do some of us fall in love quickly, while others run away or prefer safety?
We learn about the three attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, and secure, with real-life stories from people who have ... Show More
19m 6s