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Apr 2025
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Attachment Styles EXPLAINED: Which One A...

Ed Mylett | Cumulus Podcast Network
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Are you showing up as your real self… or just who you think you should be?


In this Mashup episode, I get raw with Thais Gibson, John Kim, Christina Pazsitzky, and Dr. Marisa G. Franco as we peel back the curtain on something that shapes every relationship you’ve ever had: your attachment style. And let me tell you, this isn’t just a theory—it’s the rulebook you’ve been unknowingly using your whole life to give and receive love. For years, I believed I was great at loving others but struggled to feel love myself—and for the first time, I understood why.


Thais Gibson lays the groundwork for understanding the four core attachment styles: Secure, Anxious, Dismissive Avoidant, and Fearful Avoidant. She breaks down how childhood experiences shape our subconscious patterns and shows us how we can rewire them to build healthier relationships—with others and ourselves. I shared with Thais how my upbringing with an alcoholic parent shaped my own attachment behaviors—and she nailed it. That pattern of giving love but not receiving it? Classic fearful avoidant.


John Kim takes it even further. We talked about the difference between your pseudo self and your solid self—and how most of us live outside-in, searching for validation, instead of from within. I told him about the moment I realized I didn’t really know myself. Not liking yourself doesn’t start with hate—it starts with never taking time to meet you.


Christina Pazsitzky brings incredible vulnerability and grit to the conversation. She opens up about growing up between a mentally ill mother and an alcoholic father, and how comedy became her survival tool. Her story is a testament to the resilience built through suffering—and why boundaries, self-awareness, and healing are the keys to reclaiming your power.


Dr. Marisa Franco ties it all together, explaining how our attachment style doesn't just affect romance, but friendships and business too. If you’ve ever asked why people pull away or why connection feels out of reach—this is the truth you’ve been waiting for.


Key takeaways from this episode:


- What the four attachment styles are and how they shape your relationships


- How your childhood patterns show up in your adult life


- The difference between your “pseudo self” and “solid self”


- Why so many high performers struggle to feel love even if they give it freely


- Practical steps to reprogram core fears and shift to secure attachment


- Why self-awareness is the foundation for deeper connection—with others and yourself


- How unresolved attachment wounds sabotage your growth if left unchecked


If you’re ready to stop living from patterns and start choosing your life, this episode is your wake-up call. The transformation doesn’t come from changing your partner, your job, or your situation—it starts with getting honest about you.



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