Two thirds of millennials are experiencing depression symptoms from loneliness. Everyone is walking around wishing someone would talk to them. And nobody is starting. Not because they do not want connection. Because they are terrified of looking like they only want something.
Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Jordan Harbinger, one of ... Show More
May 1
Why Nice Guys Finish Last | Marni Kinrys and Adam Lane Smith
Most men today are doing everything they have been told to do to attract a woman. They are being kind, accommodating, agreeable, and endlessly pleasing. And it is working against them every single time. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Marni Kinrys, dati ... Show More
1h 5m
Apr 24
Why Christian Men Are So Anxious In Dating | Franco Fernandez & Adam Lane Smith
Most young men today have never had a real conversation about relationships with another man who actually knows what he is talking about. This episode is that conversation. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Franco Fernandez, a 24 year old Catholic content ... Show More
1h 45m
Mar 2025
#181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop)
<p>In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it.</p><p>It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (of ... Show More
26m 39s
Apr 2024
A Man's Guide To Ending Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
<p>Talking points: attachment, psychology, mindset, relationships</p><p><br></p><p>Alright team, this is one of the biggest guides yet! There were a TON of requests to cover this one, so I happily obliged. This attachment style is also called "disorganized attachment", and I've w ... Show More
1h 6m
Jul 2025
#196: How & Why We Self-Abandon in Relationships
If you deeply fear abandonment, there’s a good chance you’ve also been abandoning yourself in quiet, subtle, and painful ways.In today’s episode, we’re exploring how fear of abandonment often leads to patterns of self-abandonment — especially for those with anxious attachment. We ... Show More
19m 8s
Jun 2025
#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment
<p>While it’s easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment — overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment — there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, many of the traits we associate w ... Show More
12m 15s
Sep 2025
Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships- Anxious Attachment Trap
I dive into the anxious attachment trap and why it keeps sabotaging relationships. I share the hidden beliefs and behaviors that fuel insecurity, and I break down practical strategies to move toward secure attachment.You’ll learn how to interrupt the cycle, communicate clearly, a ... Show More
21m 37s
Apr 2025
#183: How to Be a Better Partner
<p>When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what <em>isn’t</em> working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down.</p><p>But in this episode, I want to invite a slightly differ ... Show More
22m 19s
Jun 2025
Episode 5 - Why do you get attached so quickly? Psychology answers
In this episode, we explore the mystery of attachment in romantic relationships: Why do some of us fall in love quickly, while others run away or prefer safety?
We learn about the three attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, and secure, with real-life stories from people who have ... Show More
19m 6s