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May 13
20m 37s

Why People Want What They Can’t Have

Coffee and Cleavage
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What is it about the chase that keeps people interested? In this episode of Coffee & Cleavage, Claudia Fijal and Lynnie Marie dive into the psychology behind “cat and mouse” dynamics in modern dating and relationships. From playing hard to get to emotional push and pull, we explore why people often want what they can’t have and how attraction can quickl ... Show More
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