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Aug 2023
30m 6s

How to Flirt with Women: the Wrong Way (...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
Chances are, you struggle with how to talk to women. You’re just not sure the right way to flirt or what to say, and you get stuck in your head. Or perhaps you come across as boring or not charismatic. And women just don’t seem to feel romantic sparks with you. It’s frustrating!
You’re in luck. In this episode of the Dating Transformation podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett shares the two BIGGEST mistakes that men make when trying to flirt with women. (Make sure you’re not doing them!) He also shares the RIGHT way to flirt with women, and how to do it with natural confidence and authenticity, to create real connections.

FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact

GET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC:
www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3


Quotes

"When you flirt with true authenticity, you're giving women the gift that they most want: the real, best you!".-Connell Barrett


Featured in the episode

Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation
Website: https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation


Chapters

00:00 - Introduction
01:48 - The Right and Wrong Ways to Communicate with Women
03:02 - Waiter Persona: Navigating Over-the-Top Communication
06:43 - The Power of Being Present and Genuine
09:24 - Avoiding Supplicating Pitfalls: Mastering Dating Channels
13:20 - Authentic Attraction: Beyond Supplication and Cockiness
17:48 - Genuine Connection over Performative Acts
19:14 - The Power of Vulnerability: Connecting Authentically
21:12 - Real Talk: Forging Genuine Bonds in Dating
23:10 - Building Trust: Authenticity and Shit Detectors
24:38 - Breaking Barriers: Honesty and Connection in Dating
26:19 - Story Swapping: Crafting Memorable Conversations
29:47 - Outro


Produced by Heartcast Media
https://www.heartcastmedia.com
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