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Jan 2025
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120: Why You Keep Losing Yourself in Rel...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
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Consistently feeling like you lose yourself in a relationship? In this powerful solo episode, Sabrina dives deep into one of the most common dating challenges: how to stay true to yourself while dating and in relationships. Through vulnerable personal stories, including her own journey from people-pleasing to authenticity, Sabrina explores why we often lose ourselves in relationships and provides practical tools to maintain our sense of self while building meaningful connections.

From understanding the science behind attachment patterns to distinguishing between chemistry and true compatibility, this episode is packed with actionable insights for anyone navigating the dating world. Sabrina shares her innovative "authenticity compass" framework, discusses the importance of maintaining independence while dating, and offers real-world examples of healthy compromise versus self-abandonment. Whether you're currently dating, in a relationship, or working on yourself, this episode provides the blueprint for showing up authentically in love without losing yourself in the process.

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