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Aug 2024
40m 17s

93: Taking Things Personally

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
In today’s solo episode, Sabrina dives into why people take things personally and how to stop doing so. She shares a personal story about being ghosted and the person later reaching out to apologize to emphasize that a lot of the time, it’s about the other person and not you. Sabrina talks about how taking things personally often stems from assuming something about the other person, which can trigger core wounds and childhood experiences where you might have blamed yourself. This reaction can serve as a way to either shift blame or control the narrative, but it ultimately hinders your growth. To overcome this, she advises slowing down, being curious, and practicing self-awareness to better understand your own emotions. Understanding your attachment style and cognitive biases can also help, as they influence how you interpret others' actions and events. Sabrina highlights the role of the amygdala in emotional responses and how social rejection can feel like physical pain due to its evolutionary roots. Ultimately, she encourages listeners to focus on their self-worth, establish healthy boundaries, and not let others dictate their value, reminding them that self-worth comes from within, not from external validation.

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