In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Natalie addresses midlife women feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to fix and manage everything alone. She offers insight into how hyper-independence and the fear of abandonment can contribute to burnout and midlife struggles—and most importantly, how self-love can help rewrite these patterns.
Key Topics:
Timestamps:00:00 - Addressing hyper-independent women in midlife
02:09 - The neurochemical roots of pursuit and addiction to dopamine
03:34 - How the chase reinforces the cycle of burnout
04:33 - Personal stories of controlling or fixing others
05:58 - Childhood patterns influencing adult need for approval
06:53 - Recognizing the spiral of justifying and validating
08:22 - The pain of not being liked or validated
09:04 - The risks of over-investment in work and relationships
10:30 - How derailments in pursuit reveal deeper patterns
11:56 - The spiral of self-justification in times of stress
13:20 - The link between childhood chaos and adult control issues
14:19 - Self-love as the key to breaking free from cycles
16:41 - The importance of loving yourself despite mistakes
19:34 - Understanding the fear of rejection and scarcity mindset
20:03 - Letting go of blame and the need for approval
21:01 - Managing relationships without spiraling into chaos
22:24 - Embracing age and experience for self-compassion
23:21 - The power of loving your story, including dysfunction
24:19 - Sharing this message with other midlife women
25:17 - Letting go of the cycle of justification and abandonment fears
26:15 - Finding peace and building inner self-worth
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DISCLAIMER: The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with (https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com), (https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com), and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ CALL 988Crisis Text Line: https://www.crisistextline.org/ Text HOME to 741741