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Jan 23
1h 12m

Schedule Your Feelings. Here's Why.

Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov
About this episode
Dr. Chris Lee opens with the truth most people avoid: men are dying from loneliness.  In this conversation, Adam Lane Smith and Dr. Chris Lee break down the science of emotional regulation, why your amygdala hallucinates up to 340% more threats if you have insecure attachment, and why scheduling your feelings might be the most counterintuitive (and effective ... Show More
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