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Why Being Patient With An Avoidant Backf...

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Being patient with an avoidant doesn't save the connection - it often kills attraction.

Dating expert Lucia explains why attraction fades when you're waiting, being understanding, and "not putting pressure on it". If you've been trying to stay calm and do the right thing while nothing changes, this episode is for you.

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