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Jun 10
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303. The psychology of chronic apologisi...

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"Sorry, can I just say something?", "sorry to bother you!", "oh, sorry!" - sound familiar? If you find yourself saying "sorry" for taking up space, having an opinion, or even when someone else bumps into you, you're not alone. That tiny, five-letter word, meant for genuine remorse, often becomes a reflex, a way to make ourselves smaller, more agreeable, and to diffuse a discomfort that sometimes only exists in our own minds. In today’s episode, we’re exploring chronic apologising - we'll uncover how this seemingly polite habit can actually be a sign of deeper anxieties, impact our self-worth, and shape our experiences in our 20s. Things we discuss:

  • Why apologising goes beyond politeness
  • Ties to self-worth, anxiety and attachment
  • Over-apologising as barriers to true connection
  • Reclaiming your voice in your career
  • Practical steps to break the habit 

If you’ve ever felt like you're apologising for your very existence, or if "sorry" has become your default setting, this episode is for you. 

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