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Jan 14
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What Really Happens When You Stop Chasin...

LUCIA
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When you've been dumped, the urge to chase can feel overwhelming, especially if you still want your ex back.


Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains what actually changes when you stop chasing your ex, and why pulling back often shifts the dynamic in ways chasing never can.


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