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EP 604: Avoidant Attachment: Why You Pul...

DR. MORGAN ANDERSON
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Welcome back to Part 2 of the Attachment Style SOS Series! Today I’m breaking down avoidant attachment in a way that finally makes sense through the lens of the nervous system, your early experiences, and the cultural messages that reward emotional distance. If you’ve ever craved connection but shut down the moment it gets close, this episode is going to be a game-changer.

Inside the episode:

  • Why your nervous system sees closeness as overwhelm, not safety
  • The childhood patterns that taught you to suppress your emotions
  • How culture glorifies independence and unintentionally reinforces avoidance


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