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Mar 2025
22m 39s

#180: 5 Hard Truths About Healing Anxiou...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

Healing anxious attachment is a life-changing journey — but it’s not always easy. While moving toward secure attachment can bring more ease, confidence, and healthier relationships, it also requires confronting some uncomfortable truths along the way. In this episode, we’re unpacking five hard truths about healing that will help you set realistic expectations and stay committed to your growth.

What We Cover in This Episode:

  • Why healing isn’t always comfortable — and why grief is often part of the process
  • The myth of waking up one day as "fully secure" and what real progress looks like
  • How healing might disrupt your relationships (and why not everyone will like the changes you make)
  • Why you won’t stop getting triggered — but how you can gain more control over your reactions
  • The surprising truth: sometimes you’ll miss your old patterns, even the unhealthy ones

Healing doesn’t mean never struggling again. It means showing up differently, practicing new choices, and being compassionate with yourself along the way. If you're in the thick of it, know that you're not alone, and every step forward matters.

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