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Mar 2025
37m 39s

192. from anxious-avoidant to secure 🤍 ...

Elicia Goguen
About this episode
Hi my loves 🦋 Welcome to another episode of the Soulful Sunday Reset! Today we explore my 4 "key truths" about moving into a secure attachment style. I discuss why you don't have to work so hard for love, how to seek securely attached partners, and the power of accepting that real love is about security, consistency, action, and reciprocation. We also unpack the deep connection between attachment styles in childhood experiences, helping your release fear of intimacy, validating yourself, and stepping into self-confidence. Through self love, patience and healing, you'll learn how to allow in the love you truly deserve 🤍

Grab your journal, get cozy, and let's get into it 🦋

Today's Journal Prompts:
1. Reflect on the time when you accepted less than you deserve in love. What beliefs lead you to stay in that situation? 
2. Imagine someone who sees security, effort, consistency, and reciprocation as nonnegotiable in love. Now look at the people you're allowing into your life.. would that person with high standards allow them in? Why or why not.
3. What scares me the most about being fully seen and loved?
4. What are three things about yourself and your life that makes you feel whole without anyone's attention?
5. If you were your own Muse, how would you describe yourself? Write a love letter to your own essence…

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Timestamps:
00:00 lessons on secure love
03:09 working hard for love, dysfunctional relationships & childhood attachments
11:59 setting the standard for secure healthy love
15:53 how to address your fear of intimacy
28:04 learning to be secure & falling in love with your life and yourself

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