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Nov 16
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Why You're Always Half-Stressed — and Ho...

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If you feel like you spend most of your day on edge — not totally panicked, but not exactly calm either — you're not alone. Most of us live in what meditation teacher Dr. Christiane Wolf calls "yellow mode": a state of low-level vigilance that keeps us productive, but also keeps us anxious, reactive, and exhausted.

In this conversation with DJ Cashmere, Christiane unpacks why our nervous systems get stuck in that yellow zone and what we can actually do to shift back into "green mode" — the state of calm alertness where we feel grounded, flexible, and capable of joy.

They explore:

  • Why our modern lives constantly trigger fight-or-flight

  • The difference between "being chill" and being appropriately responsive

  • Simple, science-backed ways to calm your nervous system in seconds

  • How trauma and early conditioning make relaxation feel unsafe

  • The role of community (sangha), right livelihood, and mindfulness in long-term regulation

Christiane is our Teacher of the Month at DanHarris.com, where she's creating guided meditations to go along with many of our podcast episodes. Join us at DanHarris.com to learn more. 

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