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Oct 15
23m 34s

419: How To Let Go When You Can't Let Go

Transformational Teacher and National Best-Selling Author
About this episode

"When someone or something leaves your life, it's not rejection, it's divine redirection."

There comes a moment when you know it's time to let go of that relationship, that dream, that version of yourself you've outgrown, yet something inside still holds on. You've prayed, journaled, meditated, and tried to release, but the grip remains.

In this episode of Soul Talk, I share what it truly means to let go when you can't let go. You'll learn why surrender isn't something you do, but something that happens when the ego finally gets tired of trying to control life.

Letting go isn't weakness, it's grace. It's the art of trusting life's timing, honoring your resistance, and allowing yourself to be guided by something deeper than your mind.

Listen to this episode and learn how to soften the struggle, trust the process, and open to the freedom that comes when you stop forcing and start flowing. Because letting go isn't the end,  it's the beginning of a new you.

 

Timestamps: 

  • (00:00:54) -  The moment you know it's time to let go.
  • (00:03:26) -  Understanding the nature of letting go and the role of the ego
  • (00:05:20) -  Why we cling: ego as protection, not weakness
  • (00:06:16) -  Blessing the part of you that's still holding on  
  • (00:08:32) - Feel, don't force: the importance of emotional honesty
  • (00:10:36) -  Letting go of the idea of letting go
  • (00:13:41) -  Asking the right question: What lesson is life teaching me?
  • (00:19:24) - You cannot lose what is meant for you
  • (00:16:49) -  Trusting divine redirection and making space for new
  • (00:17:30) -  Living again: how action heals
  • (00:18:41) - Letting go doesn't mean you don't care; it means you trust
  • (00:20:50) -  Trusting divine redirection and making space for new

 

Some questions I ask: 

  • What am I actually afraid will happen if I let go?
  • What pain am I trying not to feel?
  • What is this situation teaching me about myself?
  • What lesson is my soul ready to learn?
  • What part of me am I being asked to reclaim?

 

In this episode, you will learn about: 

  • Why forcing yourself to "just let go" often creates more resistance.
  • How to honor the part of you that's still holding on without judgment.
  • The difference between willpower and willingness.
  • How to feel and process the emotions that keep you attached.
  • Why surrender is a grace, not an action.
  • How to trust divine timing and redirection in your life.

 

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