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Oct 12
1h 15m

Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals

HUGH VAN CUYLENBURG, RYAN SHELTON & JOSH VAN CUYLENBURG
About this episode

Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you.

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Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re unpacking goal setting, which at its core, is the intention to change our behaviour.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh, with the help of Dr Em, talk through why goals may seem intimidating, and how to reconcile the idea that there is no growth when you are not changing.

Leading us into a very lovely introduction of a strengths-based approach to change, Dr Em explains SMART goals using Hugh’s bedtime as a real-life example. And for those with a particularly strong inner critic (or rocky relationship with goals), Dr Em gently guides Hugh, Ryan and, especially Josh, through the blessing of allowing ourselves some slack, leading from the feet up and engaging in committed action.

AND, we learn about temptation bundling and Hugh’s taste in music (not as dirty as it sounds).

Dr Em, you’re in all of our inner cheer squads

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Chapters
0:00 – A strange start to the episode
3:42 – Chrissie Swan tells us to move forward
13:58 – Strength-based approach to change
22:18 – SMART domains for change
34:57 – Strategies to achieve your goals
44:56 – Lapse vs relapse
51:09 – The fresh start effect, motivation slump and metaphors galore!
59:09 – Celebrate!
1:08:31 – Now is the time to get on the wrong train

 

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