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Jul 29
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Why You Never Feel Good Enough (And How ...

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Tired of fighting your inner critic?
Struggling to say no without guilt?
Why does comparison feel so painful, and how do we use it to grow instead?
Do your friendships feel more like nostalgia than connection?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with bestselling author and clinical psychologist Dr. Julie Smith for a deeply honest, relatable, and practical conversation about what it actually means to take care of your mental health.

 

Dr. Smith opens up about her own journey from NHS therapist to one of the world’s most followed psychologists, and shares the science and soul behind her new book Open When?, a guide for navigating life’s emotional ups and downs.

 

Together, Radhi and Julie explore the traps we fall into — like comparison, envy, self-doubt, and the fear of saying “no” — and how to lovingly untangle them. You'll learn how to set boundaries without guilt, how to respond to resentment, and how to speak to yourself like a coach, not a bully.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why comparison can destroy relationships—and how to stop doing it.
  • How to turn envy into a powerful guide for your growth.
  • The truth about friendships that fade, and how to handle them with grace
  • Why guilt isn’t a sign you’re wrong—it’s a sign you care
  • What to do when your inner critic won’t shut up
  • How to be socially brave (even if you feel awkward)
  • What “winning” arguments can cost—and how to argue with love
  • How to reconnect with your real values when life feels overwhelming

This episode is not just therapy—it’s empowerment, emotional clarity, and permission to be human. If you've ever felt "not enough" or lost in the noise of your own mind, Dr. Julie Smith offers you a way back to yourself.

 

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