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Dec 2024
1h 16m

Why We Don’t Change (and what you can do...

RICK HANSON, PH.D., FORREST HANSON
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Why does change feel so difficult, even when we desperately want it? Dr. Ross Ellenhorn joins the show to explore our resistance to change, and the many good reasons we might have to stay just as we are. Forrest and Dr. Ellenhorn discuss the “fear of hope,” the allure of sameness, and what actually helps people develop the confidence to make meaningful chang ... Show More
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