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Oct 1
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032. The Adapted Self: Breaking Free fro...

Johnny Lawrence - The Self Development Coach
About this episode

In this episode, Johnny Lawrence explores the concept of the adapted self, the identities we create based on our childhood experiences and coping mechanisms. 

He discusses the psychological shields we build to protect ourselves, the breaking point we reach when these identities collapse, and the journey towards authenticity. 

Through radical honesty and self-acceptance, listeners are encouraged to confront their true selves and live in alignment with their values. 


Takeaways

👉Most people believe they're going through life living as themselves.

👉We develop identities based on our pain and fear.

👉The adapted self is a psychological shield that disconnects us from our authentic self.

👉Confronting the lies we've been telling ourselves is crucial for growth.

👉Hitting breaking point is when the adapted self collapses under true emotions.

👉Freedom comes when we stop living as a survival strategy.

👉Radical honesty and self-acceptance are essential for transformation.

👉Living in alignment with our values leads to authentic living.

👉The self-made course offers tools for personal growth and self-discovery.

👉It's important to identify the people and environments that hold us back.


Website

www.johnnylawrence.co.uk


Johnny’s Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb 


The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin 


The Self M.A.D.E. Course

https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course 

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