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Sep 8
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Episode 128: Can You Heal Without Facing...

Julia Trehane
About this episode

So many people in recovery quietly wonder: Do I have to face the trauma to truly heal?

Maybe you’ve whispered that question to yourself too – in the middle of a meal, in a therapy room, or in the quiet of the night when you’re just so tired of hurting. Maybe you long for recovery but dread opening the door to the past.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I’m speaking to that exact fear. Together we’ll explore:

  • What trauma really is (hint: it’s not just what happened, but what you carried forward).

  • Why recovery can absolutely begin without digging into the past straight away.

  • How nourishment, rest and nervous system safety lay the groundwork for deeper healing.

  • Why avoidance isn’t failure – it’s often a survival response that kept you safe.

  • How real trauma healing often begins in small, quiet acts of safety, presence and self-compassion.

Recovery is not just about food. It’s about reclaiming the parts of you that had to hide – the ones who deserve love, safety, and freedom.

💛 If you’re ready to take the next step in your own recovery, visit juliatrehane.com. You’ll find all the ways we can work together – whether that’s one of my £27 workshops, joining the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle for ongoing support, or working with me 1:1 to supercharge your recovery. You can also download my free eBook The Five Voices We Carry: A Journey Through the Hardest Feelings in Recovery to help you navigate the emotional side of healing.

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