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Aug 22
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157: Why You Obsess Over Your Ex & How t...

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Why does heartbreak feel like the end of the world while your ex seems fine? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain gets stuck on your ex, why nothing feels enjoyable anymore, and why closure is a myth.

You’ll learn the three brain systems that keep you looping, along with practical tools to rewire your mind, stop obsessing, and finally move forward.

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