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Aug 21
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What Disorganized Attachment Really Feel...

Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov
About this episode

What does it really feel like to live with disorganized attachment? In this episode, Adam welcomes Amy Moore, who shares her story of navigating survival mode, struggling with both avoidance and anxiety, and learning how to begin her healing journey.

Topics Covered: 👉 Amy’s experience with disorganized attachment and “survival mode” 👉 How attachment styles shift between avoidance (single) and anxiety (in relationships) 👉 The role of parenting and how her daughter perceives her healing journey 👉 Why emotional safety and oxytocin bonding are critical in relationships 👉 How trauma from infancy and childhood affects adult attachment patterns 👉 The freeze response and how it’s often misinterpreted as indifference 👉 Practical steps for repair: asking questions, sharing context, and creating safe communication 👉 The importance of forgiveness, self-awareness, and building trust with 2–3 close connections

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