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Nov 7
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High-Performing Moms and the Pain No One...

Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov
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What happens when high-performing moms carry hidden pain no one sees? This episode exposes the emotional cost of perfection, attachment wounds, and the struggle to feel safe in love and motherhood. Topics Covered👉 The unseen emotional pain behind high-performing motherhood👉 How childhood instability shapes attachment and coping👉 The “quiet disorganized” a ... Show More
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