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Aug 21
21m 45s

Why Playing Games Is the Key to Protecti...

Mark Sing
About this episode

In this episode of The Unapologetic Man Podcast, host Mark Sing dives deep into one of the most controversial but critical truths in dating: the importance of playing games to protect your heart. Mark unpacks why men who wear their hearts on their sleeves too soon often get hurt, and how learning to hold back—strategically and intelligently—creates attraction, respect, and emotional safety.

Mark explains how “heart armor” isn’t about being cold or manipulative, but about maintaining control over your emotions and avoiding the trap of neediness. By understanding timing, restraint, and the power of options, men can protect themselves from heartbreak while still creating space for real connection and vulnerability at the right time.

 

Key Takeaways:

  • Why showing vulnerability too early often destroys attraction.

  • How playing games is more about gaming yourself than gaming her.

  • The 80/100 rule and how it keeps you safe in dating.

  • Why having options instantly makes you more attractive.

  • How to know when it’s finally safe to be vulnerable.

 

Key Timestamps:

[00:00:00] – Introduction to the Episode  
[00:01:14] – Why Playing Games Protects Your Heart  
[00:02:15] – The Cost of Opening Up Too Soon  
[00:04:10] – Learning From Heartbreak and Experience  
[00:06:02] – Options, Abundance, and the Power of Not Needing Her  
[00:09:26] – The 80/100 Rule Explained  
[00:12:30] – Gaming Yourself More Than Gaming Her  
[00:17:18] – The  Power of Holding Back 
[00:19:51] – Final Thoughts and Advice

 

Connect With Mark:

Apply for Mark's 3-Month Coaching Program: https://coachmarksing.com/coaching/

Check Out The Perks Program: https://coachmarksing.com/perks/

Email: CoachMarkSing@Gmail.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachmarksing/

Grab Mark's Free Program: The Approach Formula - https://www.CoachMarkSing.com/The-Approach-Formula

 

About The Unapologetic Man Podcast

The Unapologetic Man Podcast is your resource for mastering dating, attraction, and relationships from a confident, masculine perspective. Hosted by Mark Sing, this podcast gives men the tools and mindset shifts needed to succeed in their dating lives and build lasting, high-value relationships.

#DatingAdvice #ProtectYourHeart #Masculinity #MenSelfImprovement #AttractionTips #HeartArmor #ConfidenceForMen #TheUnapologeticMan

 
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