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Dec 2024
1h 12m

Make Her Your Girlfriend in Just 3 Dates...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
Maybe you’ve been in Jack’s shoes. He goes on a few dates, and everything seems fine. Then—bam! She says, “I’m just not feeling a connection.” Frustrating? Absolutely. “It happens a lot, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong,” Jack, a 33-year-old sales rep., admits to dating coach Connell Barrett at the start of their first session. By the end of their call, Jack has a proven 3-date plan to make the right woman see him as boyfriend material. Listen as Connell uncovers Jack’s hidden flirting weaknesses (Jack’s aha moment hits at 52 minutes) and turns them into strengths.


Jack’s coaching session with Connell will show you:

6:41 – Why Women May Not See You as Boyfriend Material

9:33 – 3 Simple Ways to Build Romantic Tension on Dates

13:25 – The 3-Date Roadmap to Help the Right Woman See You as the Partner She Wants

17:53 – Creative Date Ideas that Make Her Want to Keep Seeing You

24:19 – How to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting More Dates

27:30 – The Easy Way to Text Women without Seeming Needy

41:03 – How to Tease Women with Charm, NOT Tricks or Manipulation

52:49 – Jack’s Aha Moment: Why He’s Been Hitting the 3-Date Wall

57:12 – The Secret Flirting Move that Makes Nice Guys Irresistible

1:01:18 – How to Give a “Power Compliment” that Get Women Swooning

1:04:18 – The Power of Sharing AUTHENTIC Personal Stories on Dates

Listen now and start your 3-date journey to winning her heart!


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30


WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com.


Quotes

"Recognizing where you’re stuck is the first step toward finding your way forward." - Jack"

Shared laughter and playful exchanges frequently initiate the best connections." - Jack
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