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Mar 2025
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Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability i...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
Do you struggle to attract the kinds of women you want to date? Chances are, you’re making some big mistakes that turn women off, and you don’t even realize it. Help is here! Lisa Hickey, CEO of the Good Men Project, joins dating coach Connell Barrett to identify—and fix—the hidden dating mistakes men make. You’ll learn how to connect with women authentically, flirt with charm, and boost your confidence. Plus, Lisa shares invaluable wisdom on modern masculinity. (Check out the Good Men Project for a treasure trove of practical advice, and to read Connell’s dating advice column.)

You’re about to learn:

2:30: What to NEVER do when talking to a woman you’ve just met

6:39: A simple first-date fix that turns women on

16:40: Why men feel more dating anxiety than ever

22:00: Practical ways to build self-esteem and confidence

25:50: How to give authentic compliments that women love

33:00: The single biggest dating mistake you’re making

39:10: Great topics to talk about that spark connection

47:30: How to turn fear and doubt into fun and excitement

59:17: Lisa’s no. 1 dating tip that every man must know

Are you ready to become an even better man? Listen now!

FOR GREAT READS AND PRACTICAL TIPS TO BE A BETTER MAN:
http://GoodMenProject.com

CHECK OUT THE GOOD MEN PROJECT’S DATING SUBSTACK:
http://gmpdating.substack.com

FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact

TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30

WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Quotes

"Meaningful compliments celebrate deeper attributes beyond appearance."- Lisa Hickey

"Building modern relationships requires the courage to take the next step after a good interaction."- Lisa Hickey

Featured in the episode
Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation
Website:https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation
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