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Aug 10
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What's the real reason you keep getting ...

PAUL COLAIANNI
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Sure, some partners are toxic or dysfunctional. But what if they're not that at all but just not that bright? What if you are trying to squeeze something out of a partner that simply doesn't exist? Does that make automatic incompatibility? I go through deep exploration of that in today's episode. 
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