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Mar 2025
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Normal Behaviors That Hurt Your Relation...

Annalisa Bahadur
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You value your independence, need plenty of space, and rarely rely on others—it’s just how you’re wired. But what if your ‘normal’ way of handling relationships is actually pushing love away and leaving you feeling lonelier than ever? 

Avoidant attachment might be protecting you in the short term, but it could be sabotaging your deepest connections—and even hurting you in ways you don’t realize. 

In this episode, we’ll break down the subtle ways avoidant behaviors damage relationships, why self-reliance can backfire, and most importantly—how to start showing up differently without losing yourself.

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