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Jul 7
58m 56s

Trauma Informed Codependency Recovery: I...

Lisa A. Romano
About this episode

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a one-sided relationship—where you're the fixer, the rescuer, the peacekeeper—this episode is your wake-up call.

In this powerful episode, best-selling author and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano uncovers the invisible thread between childhood emotional neglect and codependent behaviors in adulthood.

If you:

  • Feel overly responsible for other people’s emotions

  • Stay in toxic relationships hoping things will change

  • Obsess over your partner’s moods

  • Feel like you've lost your sense of self

...you're not broken. You're running survival patterns wired into your nervous system long ago—when love meant self-abandonment, and your feelings didn’t matter.

This isn’t your fault. But now that you know, it becomes your power.

Lisa explains how codependency is a subconscious trauma response rooted in unmet emotional needs and a lack of safety in childhood. We mistakenly learn that love must be earned through fixing others—especially the ones who hurt us. But this only perpetuates the pain and draws us toward emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

 How early childhood trauma wires your brain for codependency
 Why rescuing others is a subconscious survival strategy
 Why narcissists and toxic partners are drawn to codependents
 How to spot the thinking traps of codependency
 Actionable steps to reconnect with your authentic self

Whether you're healing from a codependent marriage or waking up to your past for the first time, this episode will help you break free from emotional enmeshment and start living from a place of empowerment and emotional clarity.

🌱 Begin your healing journey with Lisa’s step-by-step system:

The Groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program
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