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Jun 17
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How to Set Boundaries with Emotionally I...

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam
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In this episode, we discuss setting boundaries with emotionally immature people, who often react defensively to reasonable requests. Joined by Jess Miller, a licensed marriage and family therapist and creator of Mind Your Boundaries, we explore common patterns of behavior among emotionally immature individuals and how to manage interactions with them. Jess shares her CLEAR method (Communicate value, Limit or boundary, Explain benefit, Assurance, Repeat boundary) for effectively setting boundaries. We also dive into personal examples, including Jess’s own experience with family estrangement, and how understanding emotional limitations can help in maintaining healthier relationships. Tune in to learn actionable techniques for managing difficult family dynamics and fostering emotional growth.

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