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Aug 2024
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#154: 4 Reasons You Keep Attracting Situ...

Stephanie Rigg
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In today's episode, we’re exploring the common patterns and beliefs that lead people into situationships — those ambiguous, frustrating "almost-relationships" that never quite become something more. 

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a situationship and wondered why it keeps happening, this episode is for you. We'll dive into four key reasons why you might be attracting these kinds of connections and how to start breaking free from the cycle. Specifically, we'll cover:

  • how a fear of rejection stops you from expressing your desires
  • the saviour complex and trying to change the emotionally unavailable person
  • the tendency to prioritise chemistry over true compatibility and authentic connection
  • tolerating situationships out of a fear that you can't do any better

If you’re tired of finding yourself in situationships, this episode will help you identify the underlying beliefs and behaviors contributing to the pattern. You'll learn practical steps to start attracting the kind of relationship you truly want.

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