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Apr 2025
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Ep 288 The Hidden Cost of Surviving

Leslie M. Thornton
About this episode

Why does it feel like no matter how hard you try, you're still stuck in survival mode? Why do you lash out at the people you love, then feel terrible about it afterward? Why does intimacy feel impossible—even though all you want is a deep connection? If you're asking yourself these questions, you're not alone.

So many high-functioning women are silently battling the effects of trauma, often without even realizing it. From childhood abuse to emotionally neglectful parenting, these wounds leave lasting imprints on the nervous system. You might be smiling on the outside, doing all the things, but inside it feels like you're barely holding it together.

Healing is absolutely possible. In this episode, Leslie explains how true transformation requires more than willpower—it takes action, conscious intention, and deep unconscious work. Through personal breakthrough sessions and NLP tools, she's helped countless women release old survival patterns and finally step into the freedom they crave. If you want to stop just surviving and start living, this conversation is your invitation.

"If you wanna stop just surviving and finally start living, it's time to do something different. I'm talking about permanent change, not a bandaid, not a quick fix. Let me tell you the three things that are required to have that permanent change. Number one is you need to take action. Number two is you need to focus on what you want and know what you want. And number three is you must do unconscious work. This is the piece almost everyone misses. You have to go beneath the surface. You can't create a new life with an old survival blueprint. And this is the work I get to do with my clients every single day." - Leslie Thornton 

What you will learn from this episode:

01:11 - Revealing how unresolved abuse—especially emotional can deeply affect self-worth, body image, and coping behaviors like overeating or overworking

04:30 - Comparing people with traumatic upbringings to rescue dogs, urging us to replace self-judgment with compassion

08:00 - Manifestations of a deeply buried trauma

11:17 - Explaining how unresolved trauma can create hidden survival patterns

14:48 - Showing how unresolved trauma silently damages health and relationships

18:05 -  Emphasizes that deep healing—not willpower or self-coaching—is what truly allows you to move from merely surviving to fully living

20:56 - Outlining the three keys to lasting change

23:04 - A powerful client story showing how deep fear and skepticism can be overcome through willingness, unconscious healing, and the right support to create real, lasting change

27:10 - Sharing heartfelt stories of transformation and encouraging to seek help, that you're not alone, healing is possible, and thriving is worth the risk

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