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Oct 2024
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#424 How To Reparent Yourself, with Dr. ...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Ever feel like the love, support, or security you needed growing up was just… missing? And now, you’re feeling the effects in your relationships, your self-esteem, or even your ability to create the life you *really* want? If this hits home, don’t worry—you’re not stuck! 

This week I’m joined by THE legendary Dr. Dan Siegel, and we’re diving deep into the powerful process of reparenting yourself. Together, we’re going to show you how to rewire your brain for emotional healing, break free from past patterns, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships.

✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:

- How childhood experiences shape your adult life (but don’t define it!)

- The healing power of contingent communication in relationships

- Practical strategies like the *Wheel of Awareness* for personal growth

- The importance of presence over perfection in parenting—and in life!

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Healing

02:41 The Importance of Childhood Development

06:29 Understanding Contingent Communication

13:55 The Impact of Early Experiences on Adult Life

14:31 Healing from the Past

20:12 Developing Healthier Relationship Patterns

21:19 Understanding Temperament and Personality

23:35 The Enneagram and Attachment Insecurity (Really!)

27:09 Practical Techniques for Personal Growth

30:25 The Role of Agency, Bonding, and Certainty

35:33 Achieving Wholeness and Integration

38:26 Resources and Final Thoughts

🌟 Want more? Grab this free resource I created for you: a curated collection of all my best articles and podcasts on attachment, emotional healing, and healthy relationships at https://www.growingself.com/connections/.

And… drumroll please! Join me for this week’s live Q&A on Thursday at 12 pm MT on Youtube, Instagram, and/or Facebook where I’ll be talking about emotional healing and reparenting yourself!

Got a question? Ask me anonymously in advance using this link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

 

Let’s grow together! 🌱

 

Love,  

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

 

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